Seniors who are divorced or widowed can start dating again with online senior dating. Read information on how senior dating works and how to initiate a conversation with a fellow senior who seems interesting. It's important to be mindful of your safety when engaging in senior dating chat or meeting a stranger in person.
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- Conversation & Senior Dating
- Ending An Online Relationship
- Meeting Up
- Safety & Senior Online Dating
- What To Put In Your Online Dating Profile
Conversation & Senior Dating
What should I do with conversation when I'm chatting online in a senior dating environment?
One of the most daunting tasks for anyone in the dating world is initiating conversations. It isn't any easier in terms of senior dating. Getting back into the mode of flirting and chatting to find connections can be tricky. You may wonder what topics are appropriate and which topics are not. As you begin to engage in conversation with more and more senior singles, you'll easily find what works for you and what doesn't. Until then, think about the following things:
If you're using senior chat rooms, introduce yourself when you enter the room. Start by asking questions to the room. If you like someone's answer, address them individually. Do this by typing their screen name followed by a colon and then your question.
With senior online dating profiles things are different. First you have to find someone you're interested in. After you browse through some profiles, and find one you like, send this person a message. Say hello and mention that you saw their profile. Introduce yourself in a few sentences and then ask the person a few questions.
The main issue with talking to someone online is not coming across too forward. Everyone has their own views on what they consider invasive or too personal. Some people are pickier than others. The best idea is to stick with basics.
Some questions include:
- What do you do for fun?
- What do you (or did you) do for a living?
- Do you have any children/grandchildren?
Avoid questions that are too personal. For example:
- Where do you live?
- Why are you using the internet to find someone?
- Why are you currently single?
In addition, avoid certain topics during initial conversations. Political and religious views are testy subjects with some people. Unless you're in a themed chat designated specifically for single Democrats or single Catholics, hold off on asking questions related to those issues.
Ending An Online Relationship
How do I end an online relationship?
Maybe you've realized you're no longer interested in someone you've been emailing frequently. Or, maybe you met someone for coffee last week and found one of their habits too irritating. Or perhaps, you've met a wonderful person and now have to end communication with other people you were talking to. Whatever the reason, ending an online relationship — whether it's turned into an offline one or not —can be a challenge. You may feel bad or awkward or unsure of how to go about it, especially when you're new to senior online dating practices. While it's bound to be an unpleasant experience, follow these steps to end an online relationship politely and effectively:
- Send the person an email. Thank them for the chance to get to know them, but state that you are no longer interested. If you want, you can give the person a little constructive criticism. For instance, if they always talked and never listened, let them know politely. It might help them in the future.
- Don't go into too much detail. A short, simple reason is fine.
- If you receive a nasty reply, ignore it. There's no need to engage in a name-calling battle. If the person continues, block their email address.
- Move on and find another prospective partner, or enjoy the one you've already found.
What should I regarding meeting someone from a senior online dating atmosphere?
Meeting someone in person who you've been communicating with online is the goal of chatting via the Internet in the first place. Think of the Internet as an icebreaker. It allows you to weed through potential partners and focus on getting to know a few you find interesting. Afterwards, the next step is to meet face-to-face and see if the interest and chemistry continues. If so, you've accomplished your mission!
Deciding to meet up, however, is a big decision - especially when it's your first time. To ease your concerns and worries, follow these tips:
- Before meeting up, talk to the person on the phone. Hearing their voice will help you get a better sense of who they are.
- Only meet up when you are ready to do so. Get to know someone comfortably before planning a date.
- Pick a date, time and place and stick with it.
- For a first meet up, pick a casual activity. Grabbing coffee is ideal because it's short and allows you to talk. Seeing a movie leaves little time for talking and dinner is a long, drawn out affair. If your dating isn't going well you can't leave in the middle of a meal.
- Let the person know what you'll be wearing and ask them the same.
- When you meet, introduce yourself with a handshake.
Safety & Senior Online Dating
What should I do regarding safety and online dating?
In all areas of life, safety is important. While the Internet is a wonderful tool, it does allow scammers and people with ill intentions to use it for their benefit. To avoid these issues while entering the realm of senior dating, be on guard and remember a few things.
Chat rooms are great senior dating tools. And for the rare ones that aren't, you'll be asked to create a user account during your initial visit. Otherwise, never give out bank or credit card information online.
For online profiles, you'll be asked to give your credit card information once, when you first sign up. The site will never send you an email or message asking to update your bank information or to send it to them again via email.
Never give other users your credit card or bank information, no matter how convincing their pleas for monetary help may be.
Keeping Yourself Safe
In terms of keeping yourself safe, remember these things:
- Don't be too trusting.
- Don't reveal your contact information. If you decide to speak with someone on the phone, ask for their number and block yours.
- When you decide to meet up with someone, pick a public place and go during the day.
- Notify friends and family of any plans to meet someone from online face-to-face.
- Never invite someone to your home until you've met with them in person on a number of occasions.
Never go to someone's house until you get to know them better.
What To Put In Your Online Dating Profile
What should I put on my dating profile?
Once you've signed up with a senior citizen dating website, you'll want to create a user profile. The purpose of this profile is to list your likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. so you can find other single seniors that you are compatible with. In addition, you may want to post what you look for in a partner. Remember these simple tips to help you out:
- List the basics. Age, gender, ethnicity and religion
- Give details about your hobbies and interests
- State what you are looking for in a partner. Include age range, smoker or nonsmoker and if you have a preference for a specific race or religion
- Do not list your full name, address or anything too personal
- Keep it relatively short. People are intimidated by large, wordy profiles
In addition to your profile, you may want to post a photograph of yourself. If you don't have an up-to-date picture, ask a family member or friend to take one for you. Casual photos are your best bet. Also, make sure that any background objects in the picture do not reveal any personal contact information. For instance, if your posing in front of your antique car, make sure the license plate is concealed.
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