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Select the answer that best describes you AS A CHILD. Some questions may not have answers that accurately describe you. If this is the case, just select the answer that is the closest fit.

• 31. As a child, when my friend was in trouble, I was:

  • Concerned, empathetic, and loyal -- regardless of the problem
  • Supportive, patient, and a good listener
  • Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation
  • Protective, resourceful, and recommending of solutions

• 32. In my youth, I was most often criticized for being:

  • Directionless, unenthusiastic, and/or boring
  • Overly sensitive, moody, and/or jealous
  • Disruptive, uncommitted, and/or disorganized
  • Argumentative, bossy, and/or tactless

• 33. In my youth, life was most meaningful when it:

  • was filled with accomplishment, leadership opportunities, and recognition
  • was free of pressure, conflict, and unnecessary stress
  • was filled with meaningful friends and purpose
  • allowed me to be playful, optimistic, and carefree

Select the answer that best describes you AS A CHILD. Some questions may not have answers that accurately describe you. If this is the case, just select the answer that is the closest fit.

• 34. When I was embarrassed as a child, my natural reaction was to:

  • Distance myself and downplay the situation to others while silently feeling the pain
  • Fight back with facts and anger
  • Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later
  • Feel strong negative emotion, hurt (perhaps cry), and plan to get even

• 35. As a child, doing my chores was:

  • A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Family life requires cooperation and team play
  • Something I was known for being efficient at, especially when tied to earning my allowance
  • A necessary requirement (if you say so), so that I could go out and play
  • Something I was willing to do but required reminding and structure for me to finish

• 36. In an argument with a parent, I was typically:

  • Disrespectful of authority and verbally manipulative
  • Verbally attacking and unyielding
  • Emotionally distraught and hung up over fairness
  • Silently stubborn, uncomfortable and/or confused about how to respond

Select the answer that best describes you AS A CHILD. Some questions may not have answers that accurately describe you. If this is the case, just select the answer that is the closest fit.

• 37. When interacting with others as a child, I was most concerned with being:

  • Praised, having fun, and feeling free
  • Allowed space, kindness, and being left alone
  • Right, approved of, and respected
  • Understood, appreciated, and cared for

• 38. In my youth, when making decisions with a group of my friends I was typically:

  • Impulsive, unfocused, and interruptive
  • Indecisive, timid, and reluctant to offer input
  • Selfish, impatient, and demanding of my way
  • Suspicious, worry-prone, and unrealistic with my expectations of others' behavior

• 39. In social situations, I was most often:

  • Followed because I am assertive and on task
  • Admired because I am caring and quality based
  • Protected because I am gentle and kind
  • Envied because I am happy and carefree

Select the answer that best describes you AS A CHILD. Some questions may not have answers that accurately describe you. If this is the case, just select the answer that is the closest fit.

• 40. When I failed as a child, I felt:

  • Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive
  • Unsettled and fearful, but I kept it to myself
  • Embarrassed and nervous -- seeking to escape the situation
  • Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression. I would dwell on it

• 41. To feel alive and positive in my youth, I sought:

  • Adventure, leadership, and lots of action
  • Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others
  • Security, creativity, and purpose
  • Acceptance, safety, and moving at my own pace

• 42. As a child, if a friend crossed me:

  • I would act as if nothing happened, disengage from the relationship, and seek other friends
  • I would feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely
  • I would feel hurt, hold my feelings inside, and avoid interacting with that individual
  • I would express my anger and demand an apology

Select the answer that best describes you AS A CHILD. Some questions may not have answers that accurately describe you. If this is the case, just select the answer that is the closest fit.

• 43. As a child, I was:

  • Quiet, easy-going, and/or lazy
  • Well-behaved, caring, and/or depressed
  • Happy, playful, and/or obnoxious
  • Confident, determined, and/or outwardly demanding

• 44. In my youth, I was most likely known for being:

  • Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy
  • Compassionate, honest, and/or unforgiving
  • Kind, pleasant, and/or unmotivated
  • Charismatic, positive, and/or undisciplined

• 45. As a young person, I generally was seen as:

  • Contented, a voice of reason, and/or often overwhelmed
  • Playful, enthusiastic, and/or irresponsible
  • Proactive, action-oriented, and/or quick-tempered
  • Concerned about others, sensitive, and/or hard to please